During the BET awards, I was on Twitter (as usual) and keeping a close eye on what folks had to say about things going on. Once again, I have to say how ghetto and unprofessional it was. Caught in this onslaught lies Tameka “Tiny” Cottle, who wants to jump start her career while taking care of a house full of kids and dealing with her fiance, rapper T.I., currently serving time in an Arkansas prison.
Her partner in crime, Antonia “Toya” Carter, is trying to get her life back on track after divorcing Lil Wayne, for whatever reason I can certainly imagine (for some reason, I’m reminded of Drank right now).
Anyways, they happen to be best friends, and relate to playing the parenting card while being associated with two of hip-hop’s biggest stars. Now, both have united for their own reality show on BET called simply, “Tiny & Toya,” which began June 30th.
What you are about to see could in fact have you asking for your 20 minutes of life back . You’ve been warned.
This half-hour, eight-episode series sheds light into the personal lives of Cottle and Carter, who want to define themselves professionally as individuals outside of their high-profile relationships, which can often overshadow their own allure.
“We’re trying to create our own identity,” says Carter, who was married to Lil Wayne for only two years. The 33-year-old Cottle used to be a member of 90’s multi-platinum R&B group Xscape; she now manages three all-girl singing groups, one of which include her daughter and Carter’s daughter.
One episode shows the morning when T.I. entered prison for the first time. Cottle claims she speaks with T.I. several times each day and has already visited him. “Just facing the day I would be without him, what it’s going to be like when all the kids are not going to have him around,” says Cottle, speaking of the difficulties of raising children without a father figure. “We have a lot of help. But it’s always different when Daddy says, ‘Don’t do this.’ They listen more. I have to help fill his void when he’s gone.”
But as you saw in the clip above, T.I doesn’t want Cottle working! “It’s not what he wants,” says Cottle, while sitting on the back porch of her suburban Atlanta home. “He wants me to be at home. He wants me not to work and just live. But my music career was so short-lived and there’s something still there I want to do creatively. I felt like when the opportunity presented itself, it seemed like the perfect time to do it for myself.” Makes sense to me:
Meanwhile the 24-year-old Carter gets a book published about her life experiences as a single mother, her attempt to launch a bedtime clothing line for young girls and dealing with her mother who is trying to overcome a drug habit.
We at SoJones hope this show has success, if in fact it can positively portray Black women who are authentically trying to make something of themselves, and not playing to the usual ridiculous stereotypes Black people face as a whole. Yes, I’m looking at you “I Love New York”.